I had a conversation with mum today and she mentioned about the new melanoma wonder drug and the story about a man that was riddled with melanoma, was on this trial drug and terminal with months to live and now is healthier and planning on going back to work. Mum said that she was upset and really angry that 12 months on from Paul’s death that he didn’t have the same opportunity.
I explained to mum that although it is really sad that we lost Paul and there was nothing medically more that could have helped, it was Paul’s time. Paul was meant to die young, his number was up. Although he put up a huge fight right until the end, his time had run out.
No matter what miracle we could have asked for, this was Paul’s time to leave. And as difficult as it is to understand the concept, unfortunately Paul didn’t have a chance. The cards were stacked against him. Paul lived with crohns, an auto-immune disease and on top of that had a rare melanoma with only 2% of white Caucasians experiencing this type of cancer.
Paul also dodged death on many occasions during his 61 years, with contracting bacterial meningitis in his late 20’s and also surviving a car accident.
I addressed this same scenario in my book Conversations with Paul and asking the what ifs? What if he had worked for another company and not driven a truck that we believe was a factor in him having the melanoma on his neck in the first instance.
I truly believe that we are born with a plan and lessons to learn along the way. We also have limited time to experience what we came here to do. That is why I live life to the fullest and take every opportunity that comes my way.
Life is short, so why waste it?